I need a poultice

I have a sore throat and a cough. Because my grandmother was 45 when my mother was born and because we were a rural family, when I was little I was included in the time-honored poultice treatment. Well I remember having Vicks Vapor Rub applied to my chest and throat and then a wool cloth placed over my chest and around my neck.  I don’t mind the smell of  Vicks – in fact, I find it comforting. But the wool . . . oh my gosh, it scratched and itched and I hated it. I can’t remember what I thought was worse, the sore throat inside or the irritated one on the outside. If I remember correctly, they used  big old safety pins to hold the wool in place. I can still see faces leaning over me and, yes, I can still hear the whines that came out of my mouth.

Right now I wouldn’t mind having Vicks on me – I’d just use flannel to cover it – and I’d welcome heavy comforters that smell of woodsmoke.

The Pink Panther 2

I forgot to mention that Der Bingle packed up Cameron and Summer and took them to a matinee in Auburn yesterday to see Steve Martin in the new Pink Panther movie.  Just that morning I had read that the critics panned it, but we seldom listen to critics. Summer was quite impressed with the theater which is new and offers 8 screens and has “great chairs” and “butter-your-own” popcorn and giant Icees with free refills.

Oh, the movie. Yes, they liked it and apparently so did the other people in the theater. Der Bingle said there was outright guffawing. Older people, such as Der Bingle and I, use words like guffawing. We also use words like icebox and phrases such as fast time and slow time. Because for a long time in Indiana  we did not go on Daylight Savings Time, Quentin did not know what I meant last year when I referred to fast time. I had to tell him that’s what the oldtimers call it. He guffawed, but he stifled it to be polite.

Melting

There is no way I would take a picture of the ground surrounding the Peanut Butter Cafe & Roadhouse right now, unless I wanted to preserve the image of muck and surfaced trash. After all the snow and freezing and wind, now everything is marshy and all things that blew in on that wind  are exposed – wet and soggy and grungy looking. Oh, it’s bad.  And getting out to pick up all that wet stuff is going to take motivation. When it was very cold – so cold the Christmas ale tried to blow it’s cork –  we were not very careful about the bags of soda cans to be recycled . . . I may have run over one or two.  Dropped pieces of firewood stayed where they fell, and, oh, there is so much more.

Now Sydney is a walking ball of mud. Now you don’t need mittens outside – you need latex gloves.  What we need is a powerful drying wind . . . and maybe it would carry debris somewhere else. But then we would get other people’s debris. Well, maybe somebody dropped a $20 dollar bill. I could find it and dry it with my hairdryer and go out and get myself a treat for going out to pick up in the yard.  A reward, yes, a reward.

Or, maybe no one did. Or, gasp, maybe I did and my neighbors are going to be going out for the treat. Aughhh. See, I guess the shows there are times when your train of thought needs to pull into the depot and stop.

That would be what I am doing now.

Casablanca

Yes, we’re watching it here in the Peanut Butter Cafe & Roadhouse. In black and white. We didn’t know it was going to be on and, all of a sudden, here it is. We tuned in just at Peter Lorre was telling Rick about the Letters of Transit. My favorite line: The Germans wore grey; you wore blue. I just heard it.  Letters of Transit . . .  I want them.

The ecstasy . . . Of all the gin joints in all the towns in the world, she walks into mine. The agony . . . being reminded of Cameron watching The Simpsons’ interpretation of the movie, with Hitler coming out of the piano.

CNN autism family report

I hesitate to remark on this – this article on CNN.com about a family with an uncontrollable autistic tantrum-throwing child (age 13) who has supposedly been tremendously helped by a five-day $20,000 (provided gratis) intervention. The family is no longer in “chaos”. I hope this is true, but I doubt it. I’m not going to analyze the article, other than to point out a telling paragraph :

That’s just what the Bilsons are doing: One step at a time. They have increased the amount of time that Marissa has to practice her new behavior, from a starting time of 20 minutes a day toward a goal of 60 minutes.

The reason I have a problem with this article is that it tells people who do not live with children who are incredibly disruptive that it is easy to correct the situation. I speak from experience: THAT IS ABSOLUTE  . . . excuse me for straying from AJ speak . . .  BULLSHIT.

With all due respect to my middle grandson, who is now 14, tons of time, money, hospitalizations and therapies have not altered his behavior in a way it is possible for his brother and sister to have friends over. I can’t understand it; it does not make sense. It does not respond to any “this is in your best interest” argument. I know he did not ask to be like this, but gosh o’mighty, it is hard to live with him.

I cringe at thinking of parents now who are going to have to deal with the old “Oh, you just need rules and behavior modification” and you’ll be fine. BULLSHIT. I guess I’m angry here. First parents have to deal with this type of condition in a child and now they will have people thinking they just aren’t handling it correctly.

It can get bad, very bad. Tantrums, violence, the refusal to use the bathroom – #1 and #2. Yes, I’m sorry; it’s indelicate, I know . . . but it happens. It is real for some families.

Girl Scout cookies and me (AJ)

Hello, there, this is the time of Girl Scout Cookies. We had some ladies with their little Brownies commandeer a couple of tables here in the PBC&R this weekend and peddle several varieties of the GS treats. I am not new to the cookie business . . . I wish no one would read over my shoulder because then I wouldn’t have to deal with snide remarks referring to my cookie familiarity and my weight . . . but back to what I was saying before the guffaws started. Okay, I sold Girl Scout cookies when I was in scouting, and I sold them as a Brownie as well as a full-fledged GS. It was different then; I think we had maybe two kinds, sandwich and mint and we went door-to-door.

My first time out, I was a Brownie going with two big girl Girl Scouts. I don’t know what I thought my job would be – tagging along, I suppose – but I definitely remember how it turned out. The two GS walked me to the edge of a porch and told me to go to the door, ring the bell and look way up at the tall adult who answered and ask if he wanted to buy a box of cookies. Then they would come up with the order blanks and do the paperwork. Oh, yeah, they stressed I should grin. I was six and I think missing front teeth. And I wore saddle shoes.

They were right, of course, and when I got to be a Girl Scout (flying up, we called it), I would send the accompanying Brownie up to the door because – dontcha know – Brownies are cuter.

Cranberry blur

cranberry-blur

These are the rich colors from a Christmas season night. In a darkened room, hanging over the edge of a basket and catching the reflection of white lights from a small wreath, they draw your attention. The camera vibration gave them a bit of a blur, just as they  looked through sleepy eyes without glasses.

A little Peanut Butter Cafe & Roadhouse opinion

This is about blogs and CarePages and CaringBridge Pages. There are some blogs I read every now and then because they are nothing but whining and complaining. I figure, even though I am a master at both, I can pick up some new-fangled angles on technique or whatever. Never too old too learn and all that jazz.

I also have been introduced to some stories on the CarePages/CaringBridge sites that provide an avenue for the families of people with serious illness/injury to keep people updated. For instance, the daughter of a physician here in town has a six-year-old daughter who was diagnosed by him with a brain tumor last year.  In a couple of other cases, people have referred me to sites.  I guess I follow about three. When I go to the sites, I think to myself, now, AmeliaJake, remember when you are finished reading the update, you will go about your life but these people about whom you read are spending most every moment of their lives worrying about a loved one. You are not here to “make yourself feel lucky it’s not you.” And, actually, I have come to feel for these people in the back of my mind during many times in my days.

There are hundreds of these pages. There are tons of blogs filled with complaints about  mothers-in-laws and neighbors and snotty kids and whatnot. We’ve been talking about this at the PBC and we have reached a consensus that perhaps the constant complainers should be asked to just scan down a list of families reporting on CarePages and CaringBridge. Might give them a little perspective.

You see, before the Internet, we would read about the occasional family dealing with illness in a feature article in the Sunday edition of the paper. It would be a one day visit and thoughts were interpreted through the writer. Now, now with the Internet, the thoughts come across in the words of the parents and grandparents and you learn these people aren’t one-time topics or feature articles; these people are people who live every day . . . just like you. So, perhaps, maybe, there just might be one postive thing you could post about . . . because, the ironic thing is, they often do.