I hesitate to remark on this – this article on CNN.com about a family with an uncontrollable autistic tantrum-throwing child (age 13) who has supposedly been tremendously helped by a five-day $20,000 (provided gratis) intervention. The family is no longer in “chaos”. I hope this is true, but I doubt it. I’m not going to analyze the article, other than to point out a telling paragraph :
That’s just what the Bilsons are doing: One step at a time. They have increased the amount of time that Marissa has to practice her new behavior, from a starting time of 20 minutes a day toward a goal of 60 minutes.
The reason I have a problem with this article is that it tells people who do not live with children who are incredibly disruptive that it is easy to correct the situation. I speak from experience: THAT IS ABSOLUTE . . . excuse me for straying from AJ speak . . . BULLSHIT.
With all due respect to my middle grandson, who is now 14, tons of time, money, hospitalizations and therapies have not altered his behavior in a way it is possible for his brother and sister to have friends over. I can’t understand it; it does not make sense. It does not respond to any “this is in your best interest” argument. I know he did not ask to be like this, but gosh o’mighty, it is hard to live with him.
I cringe at thinking of parents now who are going to have to deal with the old “Oh, you just need rules and behavior modification” and you’ll be fine. BULLSHIT. I guess I’m angry here. First parents have to deal with this type of condition in a child and now they will have people thinking they just aren’t handling it correctly.
It can get bad, very bad. Tantrums, violence, the refusal to use the bathroom – #1 and #2. Yes, I’m sorry; it’s indelicate, I know . . . but it happens. It is real for some families.