Category Archives: Just Me – AmeliaJake

Road trip

Tomorrow the car will pull out of the driveway with Grandma (me), Cameron and Summer on a trip to the Ohio Redoubt of the West Facing Cave at . . .  EIGHT in the morning. I announced this. I got incredulous looks. By the way, Grover is finding places to hide. I may do that as well. So far I have worked myself up to declaring: “I will not be adverse to turning the car around if we have a sibling problem.” I’m working on other tidbits – such as “Get in the Trunk.”

Fairborn Squares

More and more of our denizens have decided to go visit the Ohio Redoubt of the West Facing Cave and they may be planning a Hollywood show;

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Top row: Rose, California LemonHead, Alien Poo

Second Row: Polar Bear Escapee, Grover, Bing

Third Row: Otter. Hurry guys, only two more spots left.

The remains of winter

Not that winter is over, mind you, but today was spring-like enough to get me to take another stab at the beginning of cleaning up after a winter that was snow and ice and wind and more snow and ice and wind and a lot of really cold temperatures – the kind that make you say to heck with everything else, just do your task and get back inside.

This is our little pile of stick when we started; we’ll use them for kindling when it gets cold again. It is now a big pile, but I forgot to take a picture.

my-beginning-pile-of-sticks

This is a broken bough that wound up by the woodpile by the door.

broken-bough-and-woodpile

And this . . . this is the old pioneer beam that fell off of the two big rocks on which it was balanced.

really-old-beam

Oh, and here’s the woodpile by the hedge that was three rows deep and did the little avalanche thing while covered with ice and snow. It was an adventure to climb up and chisel some logs loose.

collapsed-woodpile

And here is Sydney, thinking “So much work” and lamenting the fact that the squirrel that split the cone on the driveway is long gone.

oh-so-much-to-do

And, finally, the blue spruce with some branches in front of it that just might be getting ready to bud.

blue-spruce-with-buds

This guy . . .

I was working outside today at my own pace; it was warm and the breeze caused strands of hair to flutter across my eyes and dry leaves to scatter along the driveway. It’s times like that I get to thinking and today I was thinking of this guy:

little-guy

“He looks like he’s going to cry.” That’s what my dad said when he saw the picture one of the times he and Mother came to West Chester. I can see my dad now, sitting at the end of the trestle table, eating a sandwich and chuckling at the picture. Sometime I will post  my school picture when I was that age – I looked like I was going to chew nails and spit them out. Kind of my usual expression.

A Northern Indiana Outsiding

Yes, I stuck my head out the door today and decided to grasp the rake and approach the hedge. This is a big step for someone who is not a gardener, a goal-driven twenty or thirty-something, nor a person who looks much beyond herself.  But there I was, thinking, “Let’s make this place look good.” It is quite possible that spending the day drinking iced tea and then Diet Coke with a splash of Coke has caused an out-of-mind experience for me.

Nevertheless, I raked and saw some myrtle spreading out from the hedge onto an area plagued with shade and faltering grass and decided to rake those leaves right back over that greenery to protect if from a really cold snap or a blizzard. Yes, well I remember the St. Patrick’s Day Blizzard we had here about 35 years ago.  And just a few years back, Quentin and I drove to Indianapolis between two ice storms in April.

I puttered on over to the spot where I had run over a section of fence that had been leaning against one of the woodpiles and slid to the ground during the windy spell before being covered with snow. We have since moved the remainder of the fence, but there were a could of splintered boards I picked up. I am actually thinking of patching the pieces back together and putting a fresh coat of paint on the section and sticking it someplace for vines to grow on. It occurs to me that the infamous thought – Let’s make this place look good – could be overwhelming.

Then I picked up some errant logs, dropped while scurrying inside from getting wood for the fireplace. And, then, wait for it, I thought, “I don’t want to tire myself out.”

So I went inside. I came out later and did a little more. Easy does it, dontcha know.

William A. Vance – Masonic Funeral

This is a 2006 post  from another blog – but one I wanted to make certain was included here.

William Vance. Age: about 20. Era: WWII. Job: tail gunner.

My father-in-law, William A. Vance Jr. will have a Masonic Funeral Service tomorrow morning. Reading this paragraph from his obituary in The Daily Gate City, you can see why it is fitting:

He was a 50-year member of Denver Lodge 464, Denver, Ill., Gate City Chapter 7, Royal Arch Masons, Damancers Commandery 5 Knights Templain, Apolla Council of Keokuk, Valley of Quincy Consistory, KAABA Shrine of Davenport, Order of Eastern Star and served as district deputy grand master of the Seventh Western District of the State of Illinois in 1982 and 1983. He was awarded the York Rite Cross of Honor in 1953. He also was a member of the Past Masters and Past Commanders of the York Rite, State of Iowa. Recently, he received an award for 50 years of loyal service from the Quincy Consistory. He served as captain of the Keokuk Chief Patrol for the Keokuk Shriners. He received the E.L. Lawrence Award for an Outstanding Mason in 2000.

Masonic funeral services will be at 10:30 a.m. Saturday in Lamporte Funeral Home, Carthage, with the Denver Masonic Lodge officiating.

Following is the conclusion of the service cited above:

There is no death. What seems so is transition. All that is beautiful and good and true in human life is no more affected by the shadow of death than by the darkness that divides today from tomorrow.

Our paths lead not to the grave but through it. Immortal we are and ever shall be. We look not to another life, but to the perfecting of this one. In God’s good time we shall be raised by His right hand to that higher, fairer phase of life for which this is only the preparation.

Friendship is refreshment and sweetness as we pass this way. It is much to feel that, wherever we are, we have friends, and that their friends are ours as well. Our Brother’s friends are lonely in this hour, but the friendship we felt for him extends to them. We, too, loved him.

We, too, feel the pain of parting. Our sympathy, our love, are theirs as they were his. Our entire fraternity surrounds his loved ones with the assurance of its affection. We offer the support of our sympathy, the comfort of our faith, the inspiration of our hope, that they, with us, may look beyond this hour through the opening portals of the infinite. So then, let us be unceasingly grateful for every God-given virtue which the life of our Brother expressed, and let us be comforted and sustained by the assurance that life goes on unbroken and uncorrupted and that God alone is the life and light of men.

AND HERE IS A RELATED POST: A REMEMBRANCE OF WILLIAM VANCE by Wayne Botkins.

As I have written, my father-in-law, William A. Vance, passed away last Tuesday and was laid to rest following a Masonic Funeral at Harmony Cemetery on Saturday. What follows is an emailed memory of him from his high school days:

This by cousin Wayne Botkin:

My best recollection of Bill Vance was in 1941;we we were at
Carthage High;Bill was a sophomore and I, a senior & on the
varsity football–Bill played guard and I, tackle. Bill
being two years younger and smaller played only parttime.
When Bill was in the game he played long side of me. When
a running play was over our side, I would say “Come on Bill.”
We opened holes many times for the running back to make a
good gain. Oftentimes when we were unscrambling from a
pile-up, Bill’s helmut (being too large) would be half
turned on his head and I could only see a big smile on his
face. Yes, Bill was “tough and scrappy” which he had to use
too many times during his life.
Yes, I am proud to have been his cousin. May his soul rest in
peace.

Another installment

grover-coke

Guess who has been named President of the Coca-Cola Company and will be determining who is allowed to have Coke and who is going to have to do without. The name Summer pops to the top of the No Coke for You List; why is that? Hmm . . . I guess we’d  better put our thinking caps on and try to figure this out.

Well, shoot . . .

I can’t say for certain, but I think when all is said and done, I’m a person who would really like money and power. I mean really, really like – as if in make a choice between good and not-so-good. If I could keep the good intentions at the fore, I guess maybe it wouldn’t be a tragedy for me to have power and money. And if the good intentions outbalanced the bad, that wouldn’t be so bad. Like, say, I bought a wonderful house and provided a great income for people . . . and they sort of got out of my hair. Is that so bad? And I could live on the ocean front, with a lovely glassed in study looking out to sea. And I could provide a lot for others and buy plane tickets whenever I wanted to go see them – or have a private jet, or, gasp, a second home near them.

So that’s about the gist of me. Then a couple of days ago I was up in the sitting room straightening up a little since I have started allowing my granddaughter to go up there and share the space. I stick things I like on walls and shelves and have even hung them from the ceiling. I’m standing there pulling the sofa throw back into position and I raise my head to the wall space above the scanner. There I have printed out and mounted  – with a tack – these lines from Secondhand Lions, a movie I saw with Cameron some five plus years ago. He’s 16 now; I imagine he was 10 or 11 then, depending on when he birthday was in relation to when we saw the movie in the theater.

Oh, these lines. I meant to cite them right away, but I got carried away with one of my sentences. Finally . . .  these lines:

Sometimes the things that may or may not be true are the things a man needs to believe in the most. That people are basically good; that honor, courage, and virtue mean everything; that power and money, money and power mean nothing; that good always triumphs over evil; and I want you to remember this, that love… true love never dies. You remember that, boy. You remember that. Doesn’t matter if it’s true or not. You see, a man should believe in those things, because those are the things worth believing in.

Actually, Cameron and I saw that movie and then the next night Cameron took his dad with him to see it again. We have two or three copies. We watched it often. And I actually printed out the quote and posted it some years later. Really? Why? I remember at the time stressing to Cameron that no matter how nice the words sounded, no matter how noble and inspirational, maybe you should keep a healthy respect for what seems to work out to be important in daily life. Things like affording medicine for your family, and food, and a place to live and lots of other things. Things like affording the best doctors if loved ones get really, scary ill. Things like the kindest, most competent nurses, round-the-clock care, the most successful doctors, the costliest treatments.

Yet, there those words are on my wall. And I’m thinking of my granddaughter sitting there and reading them and thinking, “Grandma believes this?” Perhaps it is the bit about the “should” part of being true that keeps them up on that wall. I don’t know. Perhaps I should pull them off and crumple them in a ball and send them toward the trash can.

It is easy for people with power and lots of money – heck, with just the power that lots of money brings – to hold the ideas of good and courage and honor high.

So what do we have? A grandma and a grandson watching a movie together and getting emotional about two old men and a lion and a speech. Is that enough? Oh, probably not. I guess it is something, though. And maybe it’s okay to hold things that “should be” in front of you where you can see them . . . as long as you know – like that old man speaking – you can’t let them blind you to reality.

Well, shoot . . . I don’t know. But the paper is still there, with the words still on it. She’ll have to make her own peace with it.