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Well, this is a surprise

June 8, 2014 AmeliaJake 1 Comment

It is the 8th of June and, according to the dates on my posts, I have not been here since the 4th. And maybe that should tell me something about the quality of my content, but I’m not going to examine that thought any further.

I don’t know what I’ve been doing. Yesterday, Summer and I put together a new fire pit Der Bingle ordered from Amazon.com, but we didn’t have a fire. Yes, odd. We did eat grilled hot dogs. Uh, Friday Der Bingle got here early and we went for an early impulsive supper at a local Mexican place. They have improved their decor, but I thought the food bland and Der Bingle informed me that I am used to Tex-Mex flavoring. It was not bad; it was just sort of the equivalent of a midwestern beef stew.

Thursday I went to Fort Wayne to take people to the doctor and the office had moved from a place with a great parking lot abutting trees and overlooking a flood plain to a building with a parking garage. Well, maybe I will appreciate it come winter.

This is boring, I know, but I wanted to figure out if I had been in a fugue for the past days. Actually, I believe I managed to do both, which is a dubious achievement.

Today it started rainy and now the sun is out and I think it’s not going to rain anymore, but the left side of my nose is sore from the inside out. Pollen, I think – causing a sinus to enlarge and press a nerve. If anyone asks me how I am, I am not going to admit to having a sore nostril; it just sounds not right.

But maybe we are not right, period. Yesterday, three of us sat, watching a show about feral pigs on Netflix. One pig hunter was named Bubba and two of the dogs were named Bobo and Boo.

It is Wubba/fairgrounds time for Shane. Of the two of us, he is the more enthused about it.

***Jody Lynn Vance: 1985-2011***

Jody was born at sunrise on a bright, sunny, cold, snowy Groundhog’s Day and from Day One she was a gift to everyone around her. Her infectious laugh and rambunctious spirit made her the center of attention where ever she happened to be.

She and her Dad would watch Sesame Street and sing at the top of our voices (and quite out of key) all of the songs. She enjoyed having Mom fix her hair so it was fancy and just right.

As a toddler she had quite an impressive vocabulary and often had a lot to say. One time Dad was headed out the door to go to work and she pointed her finger and said, “No. No. No. Don’t go anywhere!“

Jody was very seldom crabby, always happy and she wasted no time in spreading that joy to everyone around her. Jody’s favorite place was to be perched on the lap of Mom or Dad or playing with her toys spread out all over the floor. Jody was always affectionate, wanting hugs and “moochies” as she called smooches on the cheek.

At around two, Jody’s illness began to attack her. It took a beautiful, innocent child and put her through untold pain and suffering,

I know that through all of that she was not afraid. She had the heart and spirit of lion. She never gave up; time after countless time, she would open her eyes and there would come that smile. Jody lost her speech, but never was at a loss for words. She could say more with a look or a half smile than most people do yakking all day long.

After numerous doctor, hospital, and specialist visits, we were given the news of her illness. I remember that moment frozen in time … it was as if the entire world stopped. It was in that brief moment we both knew that we must make the very most of the time we had remaining together and not dwell on the despair of all of the things that would never be.

Jody was not expected to live more than three or so - but she had too many things to do and stories to tell, so she cruised by that birthday and over two more decades of birthdays, Christmases and millions of smiles and hugs. Jody was well-liked by other kids; once when she was being wheeled into her classroom at Handicare, one of the children yelled, “Hey everybody, Jody’s here” and all the kids cheered.

Two of the biggest joys in her life were her two little brothers, Joey and Sammy. She would just beam with joy when they would sit next to her and when they began to get older she’d love to listen to them running through the house and playing together. The two of them would start laughing and Jody would laugh right along with them. She would listen intently to everything they did and they would include her as often as they could. The three of them loved watching Saturday morning cartoons and The Three Stooges.

Joe and Sam did without a lot of things that other kids had, did and took for granted … and they never once complained or were resentful of the way things were. That shows a special kind of love and a special kind of family.

As the years went by and the boys grew up into strong and healthy, Jody’s health slowly and steadily declined. She would have long stretches where she was fairly stable and then would become so very ill.

Many times we were sure the end was near and then she would open those sparkling blue eyes and stretch just like nothing had happened at all.

Once she was in the hospital with her usual bout of pneumonia and lapsed into a coma; this went on for 8 days. One Dr. came in, examined her and just shook his head. Later that night Jody’s eyes popped open and she was refreshed from her cat- nap.

People over the years have commented, ”I don’t know how you do it. ”This always struck me as odd. My thoughts would always be: How could you even think of turning your back on someone who needs you that much?

It was always our promise to Jody that she would always live at home with her family and I think she found comfort in knowing that.

But, no one person can take the credit for caring for this wonderful young woman. It has taken an army of doctors, nurses, teachers, aides, pharmacists, friends, and family over the years to maintain Jody at home, and we could never begin to thank you enough.

Jody always kept her head held high and never seemed to be afraid; she has truly been my inspiration on many occasions. When things were gloomy and seemed hopeless, just one smile and a hug was all I needed to go on. Jody will always be my hero. I love her and will treasure the time we had together.

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