Jody was born at sunrise on a bright, sunny, cold, snowy Groundhog’s Day and from Day One she was a gift to everyone around her. Her infectious laugh and rambunctious spirit made her the center of attention where ever she happened to be.
She and her Dad would watch Sesame Street and sing at the top of our voices (and quite out of key) all of the songs. She enjoyed having Mom fix her hair so it was fancy and just right.
As a toddler she had quite an impressive vocabulary and often had a lot to say. One time Dad was headed out the door to go to work and she pointed her finger and said, “No. No. No. Don’t go anywhere!“
Jody was very seldom crabby, always happy and she wasted no time in spreading that joy to everyone around her. Jody’s favorite place was to be perched on the lap of Mom or Dad or playing with her toys spread out all over the floor. Jody was always affectionate, wanting hugs and “moochies” as she called smooches on the cheek.
At around two, Jody’s illness began to attack her. It took a beautiful, innocent child and put her through untold pain and suffering,
I know that through all of that she was not afraid. She had the heart and spirit of lion. She never gave up; time after countless time, she would open her eyes and there would come that smile. Jody lost her speech, but never was at a loss for words. She could say more with a look or a half smile than most people do yakking all day long.
After numerous doctor, hospital, and specialist visits, we were given the news of her illness. I remember that moment frozen in time … it was as if the entire world stopped. It was in that brief moment we both knew that we must make the very most of the time we had remaining together and not dwell on the despair of all of the things that would never be.
Jody was not expected to live more than three or so - but she had too many things to do and stories to tell, so she cruised by that birthday and over two more decades of birthdays, Christmases and millions of smiles and hugs. Jody was well-liked by other kids; once when she was being wheeled into her classroom at Handicare, one of the children yelled, “Hey everybody, Jody’s here” and all the kids cheered.
Two of the biggest joys in her life were her two little brothers, Joey and Sammy. She would just beam with joy when they would sit next to her and when they began to get older she’d love to listen to them running through the house and playing together. The two of them would start laughing and Jody would laugh right along with them. She would listen intently to everything they did and they would include her as often as they could. The three of them loved watching Saturday morning cartoons and The Three Stooges.
Joe and Sam did without a lot of things that other kids had, did and took for granted … and they never once complained or were resentful of the way things were. That shows a special kind of love and a special kind of family.
As the years went by and the boys grew up into strong and healthy, Jody’s health slowly and steadily declined. She would have long stretches where she was fairly stable and then would become so very ill.
Many times we were sure the end was near and then she would open those sparkling blue eyes and stretch just like nothing had happened at all.
Once she was in the hospital with her usual bout of pneumonia and lapsed into a coma; this went on for 8 days. One Dr. came in, examined her and just shook his head. Later that night Jody’s eyes popped open and she was refreshed from her cat- nap.
People over the years have commented, ”I don’t know how you do it. ”This always struck me as odd. My thoughts would always be: How could you even think of turning your back on someone who needs you that much?
It was always our promise to Jody that she would always live at home with her family and I think she found comfort in knowing that.
But, no one person can take the credit for caring for this wonderful young woman. It has taken an army of doctors, nurses, teachers, aides, pharmacists, friends, and family over the years to maintain Jody at home, and we could never begin to thank you enough.
Jody always kept her head held high and never seemed to be afraid; she has truly been my inspiration on many occasions. When things were gloomy and seemed hopeless, just one smile and a hug was all I needed to go on. Jody will always be my hero. I love her and will treasure the time we had together.
My hair is a little darker in our quest to eliminate any golden/orange tint that showed up when my hair dried. Wet, it just looked normal. We will see how this goes. The problem was not just the brassy shade that showed up after a few washings – even with special shampoo (and in the summer, sun) – but the startling contrast it made with my roots that are a blend of white and light brown. It was actually the brown aspect that made the most contrast. Maybe as the brown finally gives up the ghost, I will lighten the color so it will mesh better with all white. Who knows.
Anyway, I want to thank Donna of Scizzor Worx for working with me. My paternal grandmother had gallbladder trouble and hair that was her natural color way into her 80′s; I inherited the gallbladder, but not the hair gene. Rats.
So, what to do now? I am feeling less down. I think because I did something and I am thinking, well, maybe that is a good tactic for other things in my life. Try a little action. I guess this most is mainly for me, writing about it to aid helping my brain forge pathway of soldiering on. I know that phrase makes one want to giggle, but right now, the little melodrama helps.Makes me think of the Home Guard and the cheerful song in that Angela Lansbury movie, Bedknobs and Broomsticks.
I’m feeling down, so I am going to get my hair colored. The roots are showing and that adds to my downness. I guess if I were really down, I’d say to hell with roots and let them be or shave my head. But I’m going to (excuse me in advance) bitch slap myself by having a little coloring experiment. Four o’clock. If things work out visually okay, I will tell myself, “Thanks, I needed that.” And if they don’t, well, it’s coming up on February and March and they are ‘waiting room’ months in Indiana anyway. I’ll just wait until the roots spring up again.
Perhaps I should take Rose with me; she could get her hair done – maybe something in a turquoise.
Who knew? Not us, the school has an automated system that alerts families to starting delays due to weather; well, we didn’t hear the phone and no one saw the message light flashing, so we goofed up. Yes, apparently it is icy outside and I have just found out about an eight car pile-up on the west side of Fort Wayne. I have heard sirens with my own ears. I suspect it is very treacherous out there.
Now we wait and see. The forecast is for the temperature to remain at 32? until at eleven, so I am thinking that while the salt trucks will be on all the main roads, a lot of roads will be left to wait for the warm-up. That means school bus routes could remain icy . . . and then there’s the factor of student drivers. I wouldn’t be surprised if they cancel. I am not relying on the phone – I have a screen window open to school announcements. And there it goes . . . East Noble: Closed.
Well, heck.
Colin is very excited; Shane’s a little upset. His barks sound like GET. OUT. OF. HERE.
Vitiligo – that’s what I have. I’ve had it as long as I can remember. White spots on my knees and ankles. Then in my 40′s I got some spots on my torso, and in my 50′s it showed up on my hands. Every year in the winter, I vow that I will start using sun screen and wearing gloves when the spring comes with more time outside and more direct sunlight. Every year I forget.
So, every summer the white spots show up big time; it doesn’t bother me and I don’t even think about it until someone asks or warns me that I must have gotten something on my hand. It is dramatic-looking and I find quite a few people assume I have been burned. Thankfully, not.
Anyway, I’ve taken this picture – because I was sitting here with my phone and my hands and not much motivation to do anything – and I’m going to compare it with one I will take in high summer. When it is time to compare, the winter picture will be right here and I won’t have to search through files for it.
That is the reason for the boring post.
UPDATE: Well, rats, I bored myself right into forgetting to post the picture.
Egads! What has happened? When you click on the pictures in the two post below, the enlargement is upside down. I’m going to look into this . . . after I take a deep breath and think for a little while.
We’re coming up on the first birthday of the little guy in the picture below. His grandma is one of my dear friends – a really great lady – from West Chester, Ohio. His grandpa is okay, too. Actually, he’s a pretty lucky little fellow.
Of course, when I speak of the Indiana Jones Movie Era, I am talking about the first three – not the last which I wrote about here – something about Old Man Pants.
Let’s see, an Indiana Jones movie was at the Drive-In in Chicago when Quentin was born; that would have been the first one. This picture, which has seen far better days and looks as if it could have been touched by snake venom, must have been taken about 1986 to 88. I’d guess maybe the second movie had hit the video release date for home viewing. I say this because the shorter Indiana Jones in this picture could not have been too long in the tooth – and that’s assuming he had front ones.
Actually Der Bingle had his leather jacket and hat before Indiana Jones came to the movies. I think the jacket was from Korea or Thailand and the hat was from Australia, but I could be wrong. Quentin’s jacket was from Korea (again I think) and I don’t know where we got the hat. But, anyway, here they are cooking out back on the patio.
By the way, there is a snake story about that patio and if you want to find out about it, I believe it is here.
I woke at about 3:20 in the morning. Yes, most people in these parts were sleeping, and I went to the bathroom. Well, first I thought about going to the bathroom – such a chore, dontcha know? – and decided that, yes, it would be the wise thing to do.
Then I get back under the covers and I AM AWAKE; the situation is obvious to me: I am up a tree without a paddle. No, I deliberately fouled-up that cliche; I think it is nighttime humor more than evidence of sleep deprivation. I could be wrong. I will see what my humor is like 12 hours from now as the afternoon wanes. I imagine whatever thoughts I have – funny or not – will run the gamut from A to ZZZZZZZZZ.
Too bad other people are in the house or I would bang things around and get some serious straightening up done. However, I know my dexterity level in the best of times and I think I would more than likely do something akin to dropping a pizza pan on the floor – WANGA WANGA WANGA – in these early morning hours.
And to think I used to have days (deadline) when I would go to bed at three after writing three articles that I had started at, oh, 10 pm. I remember sitting there spending part of that time calculating possible rates of progress and finishing up times. Oh, when that last period was typed . . . the closing of the laptop was soooo delicious. Of course, getting up then at 6:30 am was a little less so, but once over the out of bed hump, I felt cheerful. Until the next deadline. I never figured out why I did this; I have only figured out that I can’t do it anymore. That trudge to the finish was like hitting the wall in a marathon – AS IF I WOULD KNOW.
Capitals. They are supposed to indicate yelling; I think that is too limiting. I think of them as emphasis. I get snide and snarky if I want to have a tantrum in typing. But that is just an early morning rambling. Actually, it’s the truth, the rambling is in the bringing it up here.
I am craving a peanut butter foldover. I don’t have any Trader Joe’s sourdough bread so I can’t pretend I’m going native in San Diego. I guess it’s a Midwest Wheat morning, and with that, I see I have made my decision am am going to the kitchen NOW. (emphasis)
I guess that post title hints at the level of my expressive creativity today. I’m here because I had some dilly-dally moments while getting ready to go to the bank and post office about 11 this morning. I was finally ready to head out the door at about noon and decided lunchtime on a Monday was not a good time to actually go inside both places. I am waiting an hour. Right here with you. I jest.
I am going to read my Kindle for awhile. The book is okay and it has lots of pages and cost 99¢ – probably not the best way to measure the worth of a book. If you’re looking at relaxation, however, I suppose it’s as good as a Redbox rental.
Two week-ends in a row Der Bingle and I have made chili on Saturday morning and he has handed me the parts of the sliced tomatoes that don’t go in the mixture. I eat them because I love tomatoes. Last week I bought regular on the vine tomatoes because I forgot his instructions to get romas. So yesterday I made certain I had the roma ones.
Okay . . . This morning as he was slicing and dicing and I was walking around the kitchen collecting spoons, washing pans and putting the chopper together, he would, as usual, slip a bit of tomato into my mouth. Everything proceeded as usual; just like last Saturday . . . until a couple of hours later when I had the dreaded intestinal cramps, followed by mock dysentery. Sorry if I’m getting dramatic here but it didn’t feel good.
I think it was the roma tomatoes; I think they are for cooking, not raw eating. At least as far as my body is concerned. Maybe I am wrong . . . as my daughter-in-law said, “Oh, you and your gut.”
I stopped talking about romas then because my intuition told me unless I quickly changed the subject, that line would become on of my definitions. You know, kids saying, “You’ve got Grandma’s gut.” Or, let’s go to a different restaurant; you know Grandma’s gut.” Heck, it could become a syndrome: Grandma’s Gut.
I don’t know, maybe it’s better than having “the vapors”, but come to think of it (and I wish I hadn’t) it might actually have some resulting vapors of its own.
What did they say yesterday? Oh, yeah, I remember. SHUT UP AMELIAJAKE.
The Peanut Butter Cafe & Roadhouse is a real place - each person just perceives it a bit different from another. Or maybe a lot different, for all that I know. I'd say it would be a stretch to see it as modern, sleek nightclub, but I guess if you got a group of those folks lost out here in these parts, they could enjoy themselves sitting and talking and digging down in the soda pop cooler. The stove that we put wood in for heat - not the cooking kind - might take them aback, but it's a pretty fine thing on a cool morning come dawn or a cold winter day.
Most of us agree the floor is pretty much narrow hardwood, although we've got some big, wide and thick planks in a couple of areas. We've got a counter and stools and tables and chairs and I wouldn't say too many things match. Got a couple or big real rag rugs and a couple of fake Persian, threadbare they are. There's an aroma in the place, a mixture of woodsmoke and your favorite fragrance. Some swear it's citrus and sage, others insist it's macintosh and peach and every now and then we all agree it's the scent of rhubarb cooking down to a sauce.
We've got Friday, our dog, who used to live in meadow in Vermont until he died and came here. I guess technically he's a dog-angel - but we don't get technical here.
FRIDAY: